Blog 18; Releasing

Week 11, Blog 18

#nolongerserving #vacation #gossip #takingcontrol #practise #uncomfortable

#Releasing #Vegas

Release all that no longer serves you

As some of you know I’ve been on vacation since Wednesday. And since then I’ve been taking it upon myself to try and release all stress, worries, feelings and thoughts that simply just don’t serve me anymore. By that i mean any kind of fears and gossip that might creep up. For to many years I’ve been focusing on and been surrounded by negativity. I didn’t realize how harmful and draining it was until I couldn’t recognize myself anymore. I would react in ways that was in total opposite of who I was and made it worse by guilt tripping myself for doing so instead of having compassion. Last year I made a decision to take back control of my mind by making healthier decisions by monitoring the quality of thoughts I let my mind process and the quality of individuals I give my time to. And have been blessed ever since.

This trip has been a treat because its been putting my practice to the ultimate test.
It’s easy to create or get caught up in our or our fellow travellers dramas on vacation because there are just so much things that are out of our control during this time. And it could bring a sense of uncomfortableness. Talking about it feels good but it also feeds it with the false idea that external circumstances control who we are.
And our responses and/or reactions are great allies in clueing us towards who we truly want to be.

So what are some of the things I’ve been doing? : 1-Paying attention to what I’m about to say. If there is nothing constructive don’t say anything at all. 2-Simply not participate. 3-Try and direct the conversations towards more positive ones. Or focus on the positive aspects of the convos. 4- Have fun. When nothing else works Have fun, if you are going to be negative Have fun while your doing it and laugh it off. Laugher IS Deft the best medicine ❤

After a while your example starts rubbing off on others and that’s the most satisfying feeling of them all.

Life is too short to focus on things that no longer serve us. Switch your focus around every chance you get and see the magic unfold. Have a beautiful week you Incredible Souls
& of course #AlwayswithLove



Blog 17; Reprogramming

Blog 17

#reeducating #emotions #learning #feelings #takingcontrolofyourmind#flow #rampage #understanding #lettinggo #destination #abrahamhicks#Getreadyforvegas


“It too shall pass”

I’ve been getting much questions on the action of letting go. Think of it this way, letting go is the path of least resistance. Letting go is dissociating with feelings of pain, anxiety, fears and any feelings that create a set back or pause on our personal growth and or well being. Feelings don’t define who we are, they are merely tools on our path to self discovery. Towards what we truly desire and towards the kind of people we truly are. It’s simply a question of remembering. How do we remember? By reprogramming how our mind now operates This is the essence of the blog this week.

Reprogramming is essential on our path to self-discovery because it helps break down the foundations of fear established early in our childhood. How do we know what we want, when we are so focused on what we don’t want. Can we even tell the difference between feelings of fear and those of love at this point? We know how and what we do not want looks and feels like. What about what we Do want? Pause right now and take 30 sec to see how long it will take to think and feel of something you Do want or makes you happy. I’m sure for most of you, I know in my experiences, it took some time and it felt hard. Reprogramming is in essence reeducating your brain to think towards that which makes your Being sing. Whether we like it or not we are more then our material bodies, we are souls on a mission and our emotions guide us towards it and I guarantee you they will let you know when you have come out of alignment with your true self. Emotions are like the yes and no’s of what you want.

How to start reprogramming? Start by catching yourself in self-sabotaging thoughts. These are usually thoughts that weight you down such as;

“I’ll never get this done”,

“This always happens to me”,

“Whats wrong with me”,

“I’m not good enough”…

This is the funnest part. We are so comfortable with our misery that it becomes second nature. We associate with it and falsely take it as a part of who we are. It’s about braking that habit.  It is about redirect it. Focusing on what makes you smile as soon as your caught. Braking habits should be a fun process because you will now start reminding yourself one by one on what really does make you smile. It will be tough in the beginning like anything we try for the first time but eventually a momentum will start building and it will only get easier and soon enough the things you do want will be crystal clear. See it as a game at start, see it as trying to brake your record of Nokia’ s famous Snake game And importantly Recognize and be proud on the days you do.

Here is one strategy;  keep checking your thought when in conversations, alone or while your concentrated on a task. These thoughts might feel like a train going at full speed. When you catch yourself gently bring the momentum down, instead of radically switching from negative to positive emotions and then getting frustrated when the attempts are not as you’d hoped. Second, let it flow, gently bring the momentum down by respecting and acknowledging your thoughts and feelings. Because those are the thoughts that will guide you towards the ones you want to have and feel. Remember, to every negative thought and/or emotion there is its Opposite hidden between the lines. And from there, start bringing the momentum up towards those beautiful sensations, feelings or images that make you feel good by, as Abraham-Hicks would put it, rampaging your mind with positivity. I think of a sunset when I catch myself with lower vibrational thoughts or start thinking random words towards the way I do want to feel such as, fun, flow, ease, peace, connected, centered, aware…. the list goes on. Until a momentum has lifted off. Now your in control of your mind and where you want it to lead you.

The next is forgive yourself always and for everything. Regardless of the consequences. Over thinking, worrying and holding resentments just takes away time for finding solutions and moving forward. Take it upon yourself to know that there is nothing wrong with making mistakes it’s part of our growth and there are things that are just out of our control and that is ok. It’s what keeps us on our toes, makes life interesting, helps build our creativity but importantly helps us to see through the fog between our wants and need to identify what we truly desire.

It’s all about the journey not the destination. We can choose to face the hardship of going against the heavy stream of life or ride along with it and enjoy every single moment and learn from every wave and bumps we come across. Remember, everything we go through shall pass… eventually, when you let it

If your going to listen to any video this week, watch this 14 min Abraham-Hicks video about the understanding, beauty and benefits of reprogramming and taking control of your mind .

Have an exilarating week filled with growth and lessons learned you Beautiful and Incredible Souls.


Blog 16; Letting Go

Blog 16

#impose #Emotions #nolongerserving #hinder #growth #Love #conditional#unconditional


Be Free

Letting go is never easy. It’s something I didn’t understand; I still get confused at times. Its only when you start letting go that you realize how much there is to let go. There are so many things that do not serve us anymore but that we still hold on too. Whether it’s a passed relationship, images of past, present and future endeavours of what has, could haves, or might bes. Relationships that hinder our growth, foods and addictions we push our bodies to consume despite the after math, How people think about us; family as much, if not more, then none members. We go to the point of altering our self-image and self-worth as deep as the subconscious level just to accommodate to biased opinions imposed on us by individuals that think they know best. We respond to these out of fears of being judged and most common of then all, fear of loosing the most desired emotion; Love….

And it is there the art of Conditional Love is born. We hide not or impose, not to offend or to validate our feelings. We let our mind consume us, impose our expectations and desired conditions or we tuck ourselves away until we can’t handle it anymore. Then it comes down too, who’s feelings should be prioritized. We are all here on a journey and part of that journey is to strip away all that no longer serves us including some deep ingrained foundations that our lives are build on. In other words letting go.
If we kept these self deprecating foundation women still would not have the right to vote, Gandhi wouldn’t be Gandhi as we know him now and all these amazing stories about people pushing boundaries physically, mentally and spiritually would just be myths.

Letting go is respecting yourself enough to know that holding on will bring nothing. It will only take away your power of loving. Letting go is honouring who we truly are and who we truly are is not defined by the limits we let ourselves or others impose on us. Letting go is freeing yourself.

Enjoy this beautiful and blessed rainy day. Let it wash away all that no longer serve you.

Image from Colette Baron-Reid ‘s “Wisdom of the house of night “card deck. It’s meant to be that easy.